I Felt Constantly Triggered By My Kids
When we first connected, I felt constantly triggered by my kids, confused about life and I was struggling with a lack of purpose (having just resigned from my job to recover from burnout).
I had already worked with a variety of therapists experienced in different modalities – such as EMDR, somatic experiencing and CBT (most of which I found a waste of time) and was desperate for something different.
I didn't have huge expectations for what Lavinia's coaching could do for me. If anything, I expected incremental improvements in my very non-linear healing journey because nothing so far seemed to have reached the root of my challenges.
The first session was very action-oriented - which I appreciated - and Lavinia was able to reveal things about my responses to her questions and prompts that I hadn't considered. So whilst having felt quite apprehensive to start a new program, I was encouraged right away that this was a different process.
Since my series, the relationship with both my kids has completely transformed. Rather than being triggered by them, and imposing my own expectations and values on them, I can now just hold space for them as individual souls on their own journey.
In terms of my partner, he has noticed a huge difference in my outlook on life: I used to be the more pessimistic, frequently triggered one but that is changing now and I am bringing a much healthier, positive energy to our home.
I surprised myself the most during coaching by the full circle experience of having manifested at the end of the series what I had set in my goals at the beginning of the programme (a new job and a presence that is aligned with how I desired to show up).
My biggest learning was how deeply I was still being affected by the things that had happened to me when I was a child and how many self-limiting beliefs I was still holding onto as an adult.
The coaching series was definitely good value (despite the slightly painful exchange rate) but you can't put a price on hope and healing!
~ Mary Allsopp, director of digital marketing & mama, USA