I Felt Unable To Establish Healthy Boundaries

When we first connected, I needed support with managing my emotions and unprocessed trauma, with how I was reacting to emotional triggers from the kids, I felt unable to establish any healthy boundaries and I had unrealistic expectations of both myself and others.

I had had therapy in the past but nothing like this type of work and I didn’t expect to dive in as deep as we did in order to recognise the behaviours and issues which needed addressing below surface level.

Before our first session together, I felt nervous and at times during the process I felt overwhelmed and worse than I had before we started, but I recognize that this needed to happen in order for me to eventually feel better and move forwards.

My biggest learnings during the series were how to be more accepting of myself and how to take care of my needs alongside everyone else’s without feeling guilty, how to put in healthy boundaries with my parents, and that my children are my biggest teachers – I am on this journey with them.

This work has also greatly improved my state of calmness both within myself and my relationships.

I still have occasions when I feel overwhelmed but these are less intense and I now have the tools and acceptance of myself to identify these feelings and know how to manage them better.

Doing this work alongside caring for 3 small children was not easy but I surprised myself in how determined I was to do so and it feels good to know that I have done something that not only improves my own wellbeing but also that of my family.

The coaching was expensive but worth every penny given what I have gained from the experience - I am so truly grateful to have connected with Lavinia!

~ Molly Brown, masseuse & mama, UK