I Didn’t Understand Why Parenting Felt So Hard

Before doing this work, I often felt overwhelmed and sad; I was placing unrealistic parenting expectations on my husband and myself; I never felt good enough as a mom, partner or woman; I loved my kids, but didn’t understand why parenting felt so hard - I just wanted to enjoy it but was often unable to.

My husband and I were also having a tough time understanding each other and we would often fight. I was giving all of my energy to my children and had nothing left to give to myself or my partner. I needed support and guidance to understand why I was suffering from exhaustion and becoming so easily overwhelmed.

I had never worked with a coach or even a therapist before Lavinia. I didn’t know how I was going to achieve inner peace but I knew it was possible after watching my husband go through a similar journey.

Before the first session, I felt overwhelmed, confused, and sad whereas by the end of our sessions, I had learned so much about myself - I understood where all of my feelings were coming from and was therefore able to release them, I was able to release old trauma that was stuck in my body and I was also able to release this cloak of shame that I had been carrying with me, which allowed me not only to find inner peace but also to show up in the way that I wanted to as a parent and wife.

Throughout the process, Lavinia and I would make connections between my behavior and past trauma. These connections felt powerful and validating. I was surprised by how dramatically my past trauma had shaped me into the person I am today.

Since coaching, my life has changed immensely. I now feel that I have the tools to assist me when I start to feel overwhelmed and I understand my past trauma and have released it. This has allowed me to enjoy being a parent, wife, and woman and I feel like I have found freedom and inner peace.

This is the most important thing I have ever done for myself and my family! The coaching series was life changing! I wish that everyone had the chance to work on themselves, heal and find inner peace because I truly believe that this work can change the world and create a more peaceful place.

~ Bridget Folan, labour and delivery nurse & mama, USA