I Had Lost Confidence In My Decisions

When we first connected, I felt like I had lost my voice and wasn't sure where to go from there. I was struggling in my marriage and with parenting. I had lost confidence in my decisions and felt pretty out of control.

I had worked with a therapist before, several actually, but never with a coach so I was nervous before the first session, like I wasn't going to qualify for treatment or that I couldn't be helped. After the first session, I had hope that I could share my story and find a solution.

Since coaching, I feel a lot more in control of my life and my day. I'm not judging or second guessing myself as much anymore. I feel like I can identify and accept why I felt angry or sad now, acknowledge it and move on.

I surprised myself the most during the series by how much hurt and anger I felt towards my dad and how much that relationship had impacted my confidence and my relationship with my husband.

My biggest learning was learning to listen to the inner child, really appreciating what was happening with her and getting in touch with all the ways little me was hurting and how much she was doing to be heard. Now that I can see her and recognize what she’s doing and feeling, I can work through the triggers with a different perspective, name the emotion and respond appropriately.

I feel really lucky to have come across Lavinia speaking on Janet Lansbury’s podcast and grateful that I was able to connect with her for coaching. It felt kind of surreal at first, but it was easy to talk to her and share my story and I really felt like she was listening and that she could relate.

I absolutely think that the coaching series was good value, given what I got out of it. It made me feel seen and I was glad to have the feedback, the knowledge and the support when I was working through everything. I felt like each item or issue was given plenty of time and space to get worked out. I've learned so much and now have new tools to use in the future.

~ Virginia Dunbabin, nurse & mama, USA